The victim’s statements list is a great tool to stop the self defeating mantras you tell yourself and others on a habitual basis. These statements put your mind in a looser state, creating nothing more than contempt to whatever challenge life is offering you.

If you recognize yourself within the list, rest assure that this is a wake up call to change the way you talk, and right away.

The way to use this list is simple: First, read through the list and mark the sentences you identify with or know that you said in the last couple of weeks.

Then, for every sentence invent an assertive self supporting alternative. For example, instead of saying “It is not my fault”, you might say “Let’s see how I can help to fix it”. Attitude is everything, and it starts with the way you express yourself.

So, are you a victim of yourself? Find out:

· “Look what you made me do”
· “You hurt my feelings”
· “It’s not my fault”
· “Can you believe what she did to me?”
· “If you behave, I might want to stay”
· “I want an apology”
· “I want you to understand what you did wrong”
· “I am sick and tired of your…”
· “I don’t like what you say, change it”
· “I don’t have enough time to help you”
· “When you do that, it just drives me nuts”
· “Who’s wearing the pants in this family?”
· “I can’t help it”
· “This is just the way I am, deal with it!”
· “If only he or she wouldn’t or would have…”
· “I’m not responsible”
· “I’m not contributing enough”
· “I’m not doing as well as others”
· “I’m just a perfectionist”
· “Things always go wrong for me”
· “It’s just too hard for me”
· “My life are a struggle, never ending struggle”
· “If I’d die you’d be happy ’cause no one will nag you”
· “Why me???”
· “Why does this always happen to me?”
· “If I can’t do it right, I just won’t do it”
· “You don’t know what you’re doing”
· “Grow up! Do I have to do everything for you?”
· “I’m better alone”
· “People don’t understand me”
· “It’s too much for me to handle”
· “If you only had more… “
· “Here are your mistakes…”
· “Here’s a list of what is wrong with you…”
· “My parents were not supporting”
· “I will change when the world will change”
· “I will change when you change”
· “I’m working hard all day long; I deserve some relief at the end of the day”
· “Why am I not surprised of what you did?”
· “Life sucks”
· “People will stab you in the back if you just turn your back for a second”
· “Of course there are dirty dishes… the maid has just returned”
· “Do I look like an idiot?”
· “I’m stupid for believing you”