By: Shlomo Vaknin, C.Ht

“If you create an act, you create a habit. If you create a habit, you create a character. If you create a character, you create a destiny”. – Andre Maurois

From the book: The Big Book of NLP Techniques: 200+ Patterns & Strategies of Neuro Linguistic Programming

Credits for the creation of this NLP pattern belong to Alexander Van Buren.

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Overview: The End-Of-Day Pattern

Step #1. Review the day from a loving state.

Step #2. Find a rough spot and freeze frame.

Step #3. Identify resources from your day.

Step #4. Use logical levels and your resources to create preferred outcomes and processes.

Step #5. Play the scene through with your preferred outcomes and processes. Modify it until you are satisfied.

Step #6. Continue to the next rough spot.

Step #7. Watch the most positive highlights of the day.

Step #8. Test.

Step #1. Review the day from a loving state.

Create a state of self acceptance and love.

Begin reviewing your day from the beginning, as if you were watching a movie about your day.

Step #2. Find a rough spot and freeze frame.

When you hit a rough spot, especially one where you didn’t like you own or others’ behavior, freeze the image.

Step #3. Identify resources from your day.

Identify resources from other parts of the day.

Take elements that worked well for you during the day, and briefly think about how they might be useful as resources for the trouble spot where you have frozen the image.

Step #4. Use logical levels and your resources to create preferred outcomes and processes.

Determine what didn’t work about this spot.

Compare your actual experience to one that would have been more resourceful.

Keep the resources that you noted in step three in mind.

Using the Logical Levels, ask questions such as the following:

a. Spirit:

What effect did I have on the people involved?

How would I prefer to have affected them?

In other words, how do I wish I had, how should I have?

b. Identity:

Who was I in this situation?

What sort of person would I prefer to have been?

c. Values:

What was important to me in this situation?

What would I prefer to have valued, instead?

d. Beliefs:

What was I certain of?

What clarity or certainty would I prefer to have had? (This can be intellectual, or a feeling or intuition. It can be a level of probability, such as, thinking something had high odds of happening.)

e. Capabilities:

What abilities did I use in this situation?

What capabilities would I prefer to have used?

f. Behavior:

What specific actions did I take?

What actions would I prefer to have taken?

Step #5. Play the scene through with your preferred outcomes and processes. Modify it until you are satisfied.

Now play this scene with all of these preferred modes of being and resources in place.

Loop through this scene.

Modify the scene each time through until you are satisfied with it.

The scene should make you feel good as you see yourself getting positive results with behavior and an attitude that you can take pride in.

When the scene passes a basic ecology check, you are ready for the next step.

Step #6. Continue to the next rough spot.

Now continue with your movie until you find another spot to freeze, and repeat steps two through five.

Step #7. Watch the most positive highlights of the day.

Once you have made it to the end of the day, you can ask your mind to run the movie briefly, showing you highlights of the best parts, and including the improved scenes in place of the original versions.

Step #8. Test.

In the coming days and weeks, see if you find yourself handling new situations with the resourcefulness that you have been generating in these daily (or nightly) sessions.

Additional Advice

You can briefly review your day and select just one or a few scenes in advance to work on, in order to manage your time effectively.

Do the pattern sitting up is a spot where you won’t fall asleep if you are doing it before bed time.

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